Are you a people pleaser?
Do you like making other people feel good?
Have you ever kept an opinion to yourself so as not to upset anyone?
Told someone how fabulous they were so they liked you?
Ever agreed with someone even though you didn’t
?Said yes to things you didn’t want to do?
Had a glass of wine so others felt comfortable?
Eaten something on your plate because someone had made it for you?
Chances are you’re a people pleaser.
This was me. Most of us are to some extent.
As a child I felt responsible for my mums' happiness.
I worked my butt off trying to please her for years.
No one ever told me that I was simply not that powerful.
Making others happy is like chasing your tail.
Why.. because their happiness is only ever a reflection of their own thinking.
Of course she was pleased if I’d cleaned the kitchen-but it was never about the kitchen, or me!
People pleasing leaves us feeling a little disconnected.
When you try to control peoples happiness,you end up disconnecting from your own.
You lose touch with what it is YOU really want.
You will eat dessert you don't want only because someone has gone to the 'trouble' to make it.
So scared of offending, we sacrifice our own wants.
Sugar is as addictive as cocaine, and is killing us.
So many of us have so much drama around saying no.
Not aware that the worst that could happen is a feeling.
The reality is they simply won’t care, and if they do it's about them.
What if making dessert for people was relaxing and not a 'trouble'
and it wasn't a problem if you ate it or not?
Are you willing to risk these relationships so you can build a better relationship with you?
People pleasing will never get you where you want to go.
Book your free session and let's work out ways to say no.