The 2 relationships that really count.
Updated: Jan 25
Whenever you set any goal in your life,
your relationship with you will determine its success.
Most of us never think about this relationship.
This is the last thing on our minds, but it’s all determined here.
You are inextricably linked by your 3 parts.
Your past, your present and your future you.
Your past self is what’s set you up today.
Your results today are because of the goals and dreams you set yourself.
Goal setting uses the highest part of your brain, aka the pre-frontal cortex,
and where dreams begin.
This is essentially your past self setting up your present self.
This part of your brain works out the way and how to do it, the reason humans are so special.
And this is the gift you give to you.
Then there's you now, the decision maker in the moment.
Let’s say chocolate cake is put in front of you.
What are you going to choose? Are you going to honour the plans past you made that didn’t include eating the cake?
Or are you going to indulge present you, that’s desiring that cake now?
When your present self honours your past self,
you’re gifting your future you and the goals you want to achieve.
And strengthens the internal love, trust and support you have for you.
Think about any goal you’ve achieved and how all your selves are interlinked.
Past you set you up and present you followed through for future you.
To lose weight forever this relationship has to be tight.
If you notice you’re judging yourself about you and your bond,
remember, your past self’s already gifted you so many things.
Maybe it's children, a house, friendships, school, uni, job or a marriage.
So many things you can thank her for.
When did you last do that? This is exactly what I mean.
Like any relationship it doesn’t just happen, you have to be prepared to put in.
What can you do today to give future you the same gift?